Couple after couple read this reflection, grabbed their partner's hand and kissed.
"I did a little experiment this afternoon on my lunch break.
I threw on my coat and some red lip stick (feeling bold), and I made a point to make eye contact and smile at every person I walked by. I said 'Hi' to anyone that would engage in eye contact. I had four people stop me to talk. Just by smiling and saying hello. It was beautiful.
How many interactions do we miss by trying to "stay connected"?"
"Time ain't money is probably the most important thing I've learned in the past 26 years.
I can buy my son everything he wants and asks for but if I don't spend time with him he will be connected to the material item rather than intangible experiences with his mom and me."
"I had a really messed up childhood. My mother terrorized me growing up and in someways she still does. I'm now cutting her out of my life. I only started to understand and process the effects my childhood had on me over the past few years. It was unbearable at times to deal with but I've come out stronger because of it. I could have lived in denial and continued to suppress anger and frustration that I've had for most of my life, but this year I finally got over it and I've never been happier!
"Curing" the ailments of leftover adverse childhood experiences is at times worse than the initial adverse experiences. Over the course of 4 years, I spent easily over a thousand hours journaling, reading psychology/self-help books, and listening to related podcasts. Over the course of dealing with my own trauma I also studied childhood development and parenting. For a long time I have been curious as to how we can create a better society. I do not believe it can be done through creating a better political system. We must start with the basics. Start with the home. A good society needs good people and it takes children that come from stable, rational, and loving homes to reliably create good people.
I can site endless amounts of studies that show the value of peaceful parenting and that may convince some parents to adopt peaceful parenting methods, but I believe it is more effective to lead by example. I will never scream at or hit my children. I will reason with them and negotiate with them. I will respect them the way they deserve to be respected. I will not treat them as inconveniences to be managed the way too many parents do these days. I will be the change I wish to see in the world."
"If you don't respect people,
the whole entire world could be ...not that good."